Some Things Never Change

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The air conditioner at home didn’t sound like this. The sofa was lumpy in different places, there was no carpet, and family members (furry four-legged ones included) were never far away.

All of that has changed. I’m curled up on a new couch, listening to the air conditioner compete with my instrumental playlist. I’m the only person here tonight. No matter how many times I imagined it, or how much advice I was given, I couldn’t know what moving out really felt like.

As it turns out, it feels like my entire life has changed. Everything, from where I store cereal to the route I drive each morning, is different. Some people seem to thrive on change, and while I appreciate that change is necessary, I don’t always cope well with it. Too much at once leaves me overloaded and anxious… like tonight, when I called my mom in tears over a malfunctioning fridge and soggy waffles.

I’ve filled countless journal pages with the changes that have come in the past couple of years, so I won’t belabor that point in my blog post. Suffice it to say, a lot has changed and a lot of it has been to my benefit.

In two days, another one of those good changes will happen when I walk into a church as Miss Munson and walk out as Mrs. A. I’m excited, thankful and a little astonished over this season in my life. Yet as wonderful, memorable and joyous as this time is, it’s also a little overwhelming. (Hence the weeping over refrigerators and waffles.)

After agonizing over kitchen appliances, a stain on the sofa, and more unpacked boxes, I was convinced that my life had changed 100% and would never settle down. Did I mention that I’m a tad melodramatic when things get overwhelming?

Since writing is my therapy, I typed and backspaced several captions about “Change,” and started to ponder what had really changed. Then it dawned on me that even though so much has changed in a short time, some things haven’t. In life, nearly everything changes but there are a few things that remain. Reflecting on those steady things in chaotic times helps to anchor me. Some of my unchanging things are:

Love. My relationships look a little different now that I’ve moved out and I’m getting married, but I still deeply love the same people I did before this season. I’m still confident they care for me. It’s reassuring to know that even when I’m not down the hallway, my parents and brothers love me. It’s comforting that even when I’m overreacting, my soon-to-be husband loves me unwaveringly. I’m truly thankful for the friends, church family and work family who have sacrificed and supported me through this time. I’m in a different place but I’m still connected to many of the same people. That hasn’t changed.

Words. A one-in-the-morning blog post proves I still need to write. Even when I have no idea what I’m trying to say, my brain needs to clear itself onto paper (or a screen.) I used to dramatically say that I was born with ink in my veins. While I’m very much red-blooded, I agree with Lord Byron: “If I don’t write to empty my mind, I go mad.”

Chocolate. Just kidding… Maybe.

Community. The people we’re surrounded with cycle through changes, but I think it’s inherent that we all need community. Even when some friendships fade away, we need friends. I’m stubbornly independent and absolutely an introvert, but even I can’t change that I need others. While this forces me to be vulnerable and open, it also reminds me that I’m not alone in stressful times.

Jesus. Everything else could completely pivot, but we have the assurance that He is steady. He is faithful, until the end of time. Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever” (Hebrews 13:8, NKJV). Even though it’s a few years old, I love the song “Remain” by Royal Tailor right now. The lyrics are a perfect reminder that no matter what happens around me, God’s love will remain true.

The sky could fall
The ground could shake
The stars burn out
And seasons change
The time will pass
And beauty fade
But all my love will remain

If you’re overwhelmed by changes right now, know that you’re not alone and that despite all the differences, some things haven’t changed. Acknowledge the changes and start to get comfortable with them, but also reflect on what’s remained the same. Let those things be your anchor as you chart the course for your new adventure. Remember… some things never change.

3 Reasons to Keep a Journal + 33 Prompts

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When I first learned what it meant to keep a diary, my idea of writing was making squiggles. Still, I wanted a journal and my mom indulged me with a flowery pink one. I quickly filled it with doodles and scribbles that I would interpret for my family. My next diary came when I had discovered how to pen real words, but still had a lot to learn about spelling. In round, childish letters, I covered those pages with stories about play dates, Sunday school, my pet, my Christmas list and what I had for lunch.

Journals I have filled, from first grade on :)
Journals I have filled, from first grade onward 🙂

From first grade onward, I always kept a diary of some sort. By junior high, the books had evolved from records of my life’s events to collections of my deepest thoughts, fears and dreams. Journaling went from a wordy scrapbook to a necessary way for me to process life.

It may not be for everyone, but if you’ve been thinking of starting a journal, here are three reasons I recommend it. Since they all happen to start with the letter R, I like to think of them as the 3 R’s of journaling.

1. Release. When I go too long without a journal entry, my thoughts pile up and make it harder for my brain to work. Putting all those jumbled ideas on paper helps clear my head. The other night, I scrawled two dozen pages with a hodgepodge of feelings. Even though the situations I wrote about didn’t change, my personal feelings did once they found a release. It doesn’t matter if it makes sense- in fact, it probably won’t. But there’s something freeing about pouring all your bottled up emotions onto the pages. Keeping a journal means you don’t have to keep everything inside. 

2. Reflect. After all the emotions are in ink, I can sift through the mental clutter to find what’s important. Thesaurus.com lists “deal with” and “examine” as synonyms for reflect. That seems appropriate to me. When I journal, it’s not just about spilling my heart. It’s about sorting through the heap of emotions and information, and using it to learn about myself. It’s not a comfortable process. It requires me to be raw and real, which sometimes makes me squirm. A lot of the time, I don’t like what I see. Messy handwriting aside, those words force me to admit what I’m afraid of; what I’ve fallen short in; what I desperately desire. Examining all of that, though, gives me the power to change it. By writing and then reflecting, I’ve been able to recognize my thought patterns, potential growth areas, and also my past successes. Keeping a journal keeps me accountable. In turn, it helps with self-examination and discovery. Journaling is about honesty, which is the first step to growth. 

3. Remember. While journaling is a tool for change, it’s also a great way to record it. I love pulling out my diaries from a year or six years ago, and reminiscing over them. It amazes me to see how far God has brought me. I especially love reading the entries where I wondered how things could possibly work out, but looking back, I can see the Lord’s hand at work. Keeping a journal is like keeping a record of your life. And even though we all have things we’d like to forget, our experiences make us who we are. My old entries remind me of where I have been and give me hope for where I am going. Keeping a journal allows you to keep your memories preserved.  

Do you keep a journal? If so, what other reasons do you have? If not, what reasons might make you consider it?

Whether you’re new to keeping a journal or have been doing it for years, here are some prompts to get your journaling juices flowing!

  1. Past, present, or future: Which one would you prefer to be living in right now? Why?
  2. If you could master one character trait (such as honesty, loyalty, generosity, etc.) what would it be? Why?
  3. Define love.
  4. Define friendship.
  5. Did you ever have an imaginary friend?
  6. Who are your closest friends? What do you value about each of them?
  7. What could you do to be a better friend? (I think this is the one I’m going to write about tonight.)
  8. What is something you feel God is teaching you?
  9. List three of your proudest accomplishments.
  10. Write about what makes you feel successful, or what would make you feel successful.
  11. Write about a time you felt you had failed. (Note: Failing does not mean you’re a failure. Just thought I’d mention that. 🙂 )
  12. What is confusing you right now?
  13. What are you completely sure of?
  14. Who are you? Describe yourself in five words.
  15. List five words that are the opposite of you.
  16. Your seven best qualities are…
  17. Your three worst qualities are…
  18. How do you respond to stress?
  19. What usually stresses you out?
  20. Do you like to think about the future?
  21. What are your top two interests?
  22. If you could make a career out of anything, what would it be? (doing nothing doesn’t count. 😉 )
  23. How do you spend most of your free time?
  24. Are you good at keeping track of time?
  25. What was the last thing you lost?
  26. Have you ever felt lost, or been truly lost?
  27. Are you good at making decisions?
  28. What was the last difficult choice you had to make?
  29. Is it harder for you to be gentle or honest?
  30. Define loyalty.
  31. How trusting are you?
  32. Has anyone ever broken your trust?
  33. Who do you trust most?

In case you’d like to keep this list with your journal, here is a printable version for you to download. Let me know which prompts are your favorites or if you can think of any additional ones!

Happy journaling!

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12 Days of Christmas {Prompts}

When I was ten or so, I decided to memorize the lyrics for the Twelve Days of Christmas carol. I wanted to know every single gift that “my true love gave to me.” Never mind that the true love was rather bad at selecting presents. (He gets points for creativity, though.) How many pipers were there…? Or was that fiddlers…? I did eventually figure it out, although I had to look up the lyrics again tonight to check…

Never mind how many pipers were piping; we’re officially into the Twelve Days of Christmas!

In honor of that, I’ve made a short list of Twelve Christmas Journal Prompts, very loosely inspired by the true love’s unique presents.

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Spread them out over a dozen days, or do a few at once. (Or, if you’re like me, wait until the end of twelve days, then do them at once.) Make up some of your own, too, if you like, and share them in the comments!

12. Which twelve Christmas songs are at the top of your playlist?

11. List eleven people you are thankful for. Say a prayer for them and send some kind words before Christmas!

10. Think of ten ways you can make someone’s heart leap for joy.

9. What are nine things that make your heart dance?

8. What eight chores or tasks are on your to-do list this week? Is milking one of them?

7. List seven ways you can unwind and find stillness this season.

6. Write about six of your fondest seasonal activities.

5. Make a list of five things that glitter with cheer.

4. Who are four people you need, or want, to call?

3. Which three countries would you most like to visit? What would you do there?

2. Write about two peaceful Christmas memories.

1. What is your one Christmas wish or prayer?

Merry Christmas, even if you aren’t given a partridge in a pear tree!

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